Become a Memorable Leader using these 4 Tips

Let’s face itAttractive woman helping older man., it’s basically impossible to forget the people who’ve left a positive impact in our lives, especially those responsible for helping us achieve the success that we enjoy today.

It’s really amazing to see how these great leaders exude a powerful mix between power and humility that makes us wanna be more like them. But do you want to know a secret? If you are one of those people who have a real desire to educate, uplift, guide, and serve others, you too can become “memorable leader” that keeps impacting lives long after you’re gone.

Here are 4 tips that can help you take your group or your business to the next level by becoming a great leader that no one will ever want to forget.

Build Rapport.

The first requirement of becoming a “memorable leader” is simply developing great relationship skills with your people. In other words, it’s all about building an honest connection between you and those you want to influence.

So why does building rapport matter? Would you really follow a person that you didn’t know or like? I wouldn’t. Fact is, you’d probably do “only” what is required for you to do. But once you are done, you are gone. When leaders don’t try to connect with us, we often are left there believing that they don’t care. So why should we care about them?

I am not implying that you have to be everybody’s best friend. But if you want to be remembered as a great leader, you’ve got to find out what motivates every one within your crew. Find out about their personal goals and really listen to their suggestions. Make them part of the team, so they can contribute with their energy and insight. This not only helps you get things done, but it also helps to create an overall great vibe with the group.

Once you find out where your people’s heart is, then you can influence them effectively to the point that they will do almost anything for you. So be honest, give value, keep your focus on the end result, be firm without disrespecting others, build strong relationships, and constantly inspire people to give more than expected.

Ditch your Title

Having a leadership position is a great accomplishment because it means that someone else believed in your ability to influence. But if you rely on your title or rank to boss people around, you may be remembered more as the company jerk.

Personally, I’ve seen a lot of highly educated and experienced people crash and burn because they simply couldn’t shut up about themselves. This “I am better than you” attitude creates such a huge gap that makes leading basically impossible. Why not instead throw out the monolog and make it a conversation that starts with us in mind? After all, it is you, the leader, who needs us to follow, right?

So get involved with people and talk about the benefits that you have to offer. Let them know how you’re planning to make their lives better. Talk about how you’ve overcome your own obstacles and how it helped you get to where you are now. Mentioning your struggles reminds others that you are human too. Once they understand why you are there and what they can get out of it, then they’ll want to know more about your titles and accomplishments.

Create more Leaders

This is something that not every leader can do: making more of them. It’s not impossible, but some just can’t seem to get their ego out of the way. And this is why so many great employees prefer to leave companies with leaders that are not interested in helping them grow.

I believe there’s no better feeling as a leader that being able to help and inspire others to also become leaders in their field. Remember that we live in a predominantly world where most focus on their limitations instead of on their potential to succeed. That’s why it is your job as a person of influence to see possibilities and greatness in people – especially when they can’t see it for themselves.

Get ready to break some rules.

I guess it’s no coincidence that my favorite leaders were all rebels in their time.  It’s inspiring people like Einstein, Bruce Lee, Walter Disney, Bob Marley, Jesus, Buddha, Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King Jr., they all were highly criticized for their actions and beliefs, and some where even exiled, incarcerated or killed for their powerful influence on others. But ironically, those same misfits eventually ended up being praised by the same people that judged them. “They were simply ahead of their time,” they say.

Just think about it. How many children do you think President Obama has now influenced to become something greater regardless of the color of their skin? Whether you like the guy or not, he willingly ignored the rules until he became the person that he set out to be. But could he have done this alone? Off course not. Obama also lead a huge team of people that willingly worked grueling hours in order to make his vision happen for their benefit as well.

So if you want to become an unforgettable leader, then remain faithful to your vision and your values, no matter who gets pissed off in the process. You don’t have to start a revolution to change the world, but you can always question what clearly doesn’t work. Remember that whatever good you seed today, will eventually grow and benefit those who come tomorrow.

4 lies that may be keeping you stuck

denialYou, me, and probably everybody else in the world have felt stuck at one time or another. The problem is that most of us get so used to where we are in our careers that we end up creating stupid lies about why we can’t have anything better.

And that’s what all self limiting beliefs are: a bunch of smelly, rotten, stinking lies that can hold you back from enjoying larger success. The great news is that you can drastically improve your results – especially in your career or business – by replacing those silly lies with empowering truths about yourself.

On that note, here are the 4 most common lies that may be keeping you, or someone you know from creating the success that you want and deserve.

Lie #1 “Studying after college is a waste of time.”

Sadly, I once believed that college gave us the necessary tools to become masters of our universe when it came to what we were preparing for. What I didn’t know at that time was that your level of success within what you do will depend on what you learn after graduation.

So here is the deal: if you do want reach higher levels of success, you will have to grow yourself first. This means investing your time, money, and energy on constantly improving your knowledge and skills so you can eventually become a person of great value in your field.

Here are the tools that you can use to become one of the best in your industry:

– Read more books. You don’t have to read a thousand books on a subject (although it would make you one hell-of-an-expert), but at least study the ones that have successfully helped others improve their results.

– Attend seminars, conferences and workshops. By attending these events you can learn the latest information on your craft. Listen, take notes, and then apply their steps, laws and principals until you develop your own formula for success.

– Find a great mentor. Mentors are important because they’ve already made it in their own lives, making them excellent teachers that can really help you reach you goal. Their wisdom and experience is a valuable asset that can help you cut your progress time in half.
(Note: If you have trouble finding a good mentor near you, you can always study and model the people you admire within you passion. Always keep in mind that if they did it, so can you.)

Lie #2 “Other people know what’s best for me.”

As I said before, mentors can help you succeed because they’ve “walked the talk,” but following advice from an inexperienced friend or loved one will only lead you nowhere.

Find the successful people who share your vision and values and use them as road markers for your own great journey, instead of wasting your time on someone else’s goals.

Be nice to the people who support you, even when their loving advice doesn’t help you at all, and make them part of your growth process. As long as you don’t let anyone steer you away from who you are, you will eventually make your goal happen.

Lie #3 “I guess this is all I can do.”

Here is another one of those crappy, medieval beliefs that are still trying to convince people into staying where they are. Understand that your past and your present do not have to determine your future; but if you always settle for mediocrity, that’s all you’ll ever get. Have a bigger vision for yourself my friend!

Know that whatever you can see and believe in your mind you can eventually create in your life. See yourself in a bigger position, or being hugely successful doing something that you love. Make it as real as possible and fill in the details as if you were creating your future movie.

See yourself talking with your satisfied customers, imagine your new home or car, see yourself helping others by donating services or money, and see the people you admire congratulating you on your success.

Believe me; your imagination is far more powerful than you think. Once your mind is clear on where you want to go, you will soon realize that you are capable of more than you think.

Lie #4 “I have to wait till I’m perfect.”

As an awkward teen I used to dream a lot about playing my guitar in front of my friends (especially the hot girls), but I was so afraid of making a mistake that I chickened out from trying. Then one day, I finally got the guts to perform at my high school talent show even though I knew I still wasn’t perfect. The great thing was that the audience loved it even with my mistakes. That day I learned three important things about waiting for perfection:

First, people are more forgiving when they sense that you are passionate about what you do.

Second, some of your imperfections are what make you unique.

Third, real success is about taking action on your dream, even when you don’t feel like you’re ready.

The moral of my true story is that if I hadn’t taken a leap of faith on my goal, my life would’ve stayed the same, and I wouldn’t have developed the confidence to keep on going for even bigger goals while I was getting better. Everybody makes mistakes, but only those who never stop trying get to enjoy the rewards.

Discover your True Life’s Purpose in 4 easy steps

“Tcutcaster-901484843-Social-network-mediumhe two most important days in your life are the day you are born… and the day you find out why”
Mark Twain

Understanding your true life’s purpose can become an event so powerful and profound that it can literally change your life’s direction overnight. In my case, it definitely woke me up in a hurry. What is important is that by following your own path in life, you are entering an exciting, and sometimes scary place where you can finally allow miracles to happen.

Here is a simple four step process that can help you discover your true purpose so you don’t have to struggle, or make the horrible mistakes I made in order to get there. You’re welcome 😉

Step 1 – Make a short list of the things that you’re really, really, really passionate about.

If it’s something that you can easily forget, then don’t even bother writing it down. Better yet, for now, don’t even think about it. What I’m talking about is an ever present obsession (in a positive way) to express, or do something that’s really important to you. In a nutshell, its all about what doing the thing you love, not necessarily whats expected,  or convenient.

For example, to J.K. Rowling, writing stories has always been her dominant passion – her true life’s purpose. In fact, her desire was so strong, that it even got her fired from a couple of jobs because she always found herself writing instead of working. By her constantly showing up (doing what she loved), she became led by her inspiration towards creating what would become the hugely successful Harry Potter books.

So whether you love cooking, health, managing, making people laugh, teaching, or expressing your art, it should be something that’s really meaningful to you – something that you can’t wait to start doing from the moment you wake up.

Find and do the thing, or things that make you feel the most joyful, creative and useful, and you’ll find what you were born to be. And don’t worry about the details; you too will be led towards the right people, information and circumstances that will help you make it.

Step 2 – “SUPER SIZE” what makes you unique.

“Don’t waste time trying to be the next “so and so” when you already have special  abilities that set you apart from everyone else.”

You often see this a lot in the music industry. The rock band RUSH became even bigger when they ignored their record company and started recording music their own way, and the pop singer Katy Perry achieved her massive success by ignoring the experts and sticking to her unique style, instead trying to be the next Britney or Cristina.

When you emphasize your efforts on what makes YOU special, you remove yourself from the need to complete with others. And don’t worry about what others are doing; you are not going where they’re going.

Always be honest with yourself and separate your weaknesses from your unique strengths. Then, use that newly found desire and inner motivation to become the best by polishing your own skills and abilities that make YOU so rock’n awesome!

Step 3 – How can you help or others?

There is a universal law of cause and effect that clearly explains how we always get back what we send out. This means that when you do things for the wrong reasons (e.g. try to cheat or hurt others) you will eventually lose more than what we took from them. But, if you genuinely do want to serve and help others in a positive way, you will certainly get what you want and more……

Did you know that there is a great demand for people who are passionate about what they do? As a matter of fact, there is someone out there who is waiting for you to fill their needs and wants with your gift.

Your job is to identify these people and serve them by offering nothing but great quality products or services, always with integrity, and a genuine love for what you do. Do this, and you’ve got yourself the start of a very fulfilling and successful career.

Step 4 – You’ve got to believe!

Developing some serious faith muscles is a must if you want to achieve your purpose, especially if you consider it to be something huge. Oh, and don’t expect others around you to believe in you or your dreams right from the start. Just believe that you will make it, and only share it with those who are also moving up.

Remember that many of your friends, your teachers, or your relatives didn’t receive this calling, you did. They are not the in-charge of your life, you are. It’s normal for the people that love you to want to keep you safe by helping you avoid any disappointments. What they don’t know is that to really be free, you have to be willing to do some things that they could never understand. Whoever does get it, will be cheering you on.

The truth is that the secret of success behind every Nelson Mandela, Oprah Winfrey, Pablo Picasso, Nicola Tesla, and all those other so called “weird and crazy rebels”, was that they all dared to say “Yes” to their destiny no matter what they had to go through. Non of them could predict exactly how they would reach their goal, but they all somehow knew in their hearts that they would one day make it. And you know what? They all did. And now you can too….

Find what inspires you and share it at your best with the world.

 

~”Working for a better life will always seem like an uphill battle if you criticize those who do have it, or if you internally believe you don’t deserve it.”~

Juan Manuel

Dare to fail your way to the top

Men practicing Karate on the beachI remember how my mom and I used to love watching Jackie Chan punch and kick his way out of trouble in his action films.

While crazy-quick fighting scenes always mesmerized my young mind, the real treat for me was when they showed the “bloopers” at the end of every movie.

As a kid I laughed it off as some joke, but as an adult, I appreciated that even after suffering these funny, and sometimes very painful mistakes, they always ended up making some kick-ass movies.

Yea I know, life is a little more complicated than an over-exaggerated Kung-fu movie; but, I sincerely believe, that to be great at doing what you love, it depends more on how you deal with your failures and setbacks then how perfect you are.

It’s interesting how some people take action on their dreams just as long as things are going well. But then, the second things get crazy, they hit the panic button and retreat to their comfy zone. And this my friend, won’t get you any closer to the life you really want.

I other words, if you don’t fully commit to getting what you want, you will probably self-sabotage yourself every time you meet an obstacle, a problem, or an unexpected situation. This is why you need to learn to deal with the fear of failure by becoming focused on your goals – the end result -, not the possible obstacles.

People like Tiger Woods and Jim Carey may seem like poster children for perfection and godlike talents, but what youre actually seeing are the results you get from all those years of following your passion and overcoming failures. The great thing is that if they did it, so can you.

Don’t believe the B.S. about famous and successful people having more abilities and talents than you. Almost all great people started out as afraid and insecure as you are right now. What made the different from the rest was that they decided that chasing their dream was more important than the problems they had to face to get there.

“Failures may look bad while they’re happening, but their purpose is not to stop you, it’s to polish you!”

Overcoming failures also teaches you powerful life lessons like humility, dedication, discipline, persistence and patience. It also centers you if you get too cocky. The more fearless you are about your obstacles, the faster you will see a way to dissolve them.

Let’s face it, success without failure is as lame as Lady Gaga without meat covered dress (love you Gaga :-)). So, develop some courage and dare yourself to fail until you make it. The only thing that you will regret is not doing it at all.

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Oh, I almost forgot. I once read that in one of Jackie Chan’s movies they had to redo a single fight scene over 2,900 times before it was considered perfect!

Remember that the next time you think your life is painful.

Affirm Yourself to Success

Possible And Impossible Keys Show Optimism And PositivityJust like your computer’s programming  controls all its vital functions, your inner beliefs act like a mental program that constantly controls everything from your income, the quality of your relationships, your level of success, to your ability to make any positive changes in your life. “Even your health is determined by what you think is true!”

Odds are that if you are always struggling with life, your mind is probably infected with nasty beliefs that are holding you back. The good news is that once you identify the problem, you can then reprogram your mind from depressed to success.

A simple and powerful way for you to program do this mental cleansing is by using some kick-ass “positive affirmations.”

A Positive Affirmation is a powerful statement that you repeat to yourself in order to change a limiting or negative belief. The method is simple: you first identify the limiting belief ( example #1: “I am not good enough to make it”), and then you change the statement to something more positive written in the present tense (example #2: “I Am worthy of success!”)  By repeatedly affirming your desired belief you will start replacing the old crappy one with something that can actually help you.

So instead of always telling yourself , “I am too weak. I can’t do this stuff.”  You can change it to a better sounding, I am strong, confident, and able to do what I want. Doesn’t that sound and feel much better than the old “Oh, poor me, bla, bla, I am victim” nonsense?

Its also important to mention that emotion plays a big part in this process; the more positive emotion you can bring to the new affirmation, the faster you will start to believe its true. So from now on, make a commitment to yourself to only accept positive, empowering ideas that will bring out the better, kick-ass version of you.

Here are other positive affirmations that you can repeat daily.

-I am a success at whatever I do.
-I am always in total control of my emotions.
-I am confident and relaxed under any situation.
-I can easily achieve all my goals in a relaxed and positive way.
-Day by day, my life just keeps getting better and better.

Remember to put your positive affirmations on your car, on your bathroom mirror, on your computer, on your dog, or wherever you can read them often. Just think of them as your kick-ass mantra for success.

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Warning: Please be very patient with the reprogramming process; some changes will happen quickly, and others might take more time in order to become a permanent part of you.
Keep on rockin’ my fiend!!!

 

 

Dealing with Negativity

Angry businessmanHave you noticed how negativity has sort of become the way to be these days? Yes, apparently anger and drama is in my friend!

It’s sad to see how pessimism and drama has become the norm for some people; to the point that if you say or do something remotely positive, they might label you as a “the weird one.”

I know it’s not easy to deal with the world these days. Hey, I don’t even expect you try and change it – at least not in the usual fists in the air kinda way. I believe that If you truly want to succeed and overcome this sad ‘negativity phase,’ you must be willing to think and act differently from the rest of the tribe.

What I mean by being different is that you – positive, loving, and awesome, goal oriented person – should make an effort to focus on your own truth (you know, what you know you can have or be) regardless of what others think or say.

For example, it is said that during the 1800’s, Guglielmo Marconi was briefly institutionalized in a mental hospital by his friends just because he told them his idea on developing a new way of sending messages through the air at great distances. What a crazy wako right?

Well, it’s thanks to this lunatic’s ideas what eventually created a strange little thing called a radio, which eventually led to the inventions like the cellphone we now use to send messages and pictures every day. Hey, Marconi could’ve just given up and stayed being cool with the other “sane” dudes, but instead, he continued with faith and determination following his passion and preaching his own truth about what he knew was possible for him.

Hey, I know first hand that being different can really suck sometimes. But this is why we should always be associate with other crazy, positive, and creative wakos like us! Sure our family and friends may have the best intentions in helping us (really, most of them do), but It’s just that you shouldn’t expect them to be experts on what you are going to achieve.

“Always remember that if someone else made it, so can you”

Study and imitate the people who already have what you want – ALL OF THEM! -, and notice how they overcame their obstacles. Doing this can really help you stay motivated by substituting those nasty negative thoughts with high doses of optimism. Always keep in mind that if they could, you can too.

And when negative thoughts arise, don’t fight them, just thank your mind for trying to keep you safe. The goal here is to be aware of the quality of your thoughts at every moment so you can replace them with better ones that serve you.

When you dare to thinking differently from the rest, you are become part of the solution that this world needs. And don’t feel bad about your occasional doubts and fears (I still have them). You just keep on working and dreaming with determination and faith until your desires come out and meet YOU.